Whether we like it or not, our family experiences have played a large role in shaping us in all sorts of ways – our likes and dislikes, our approach to communication and conflict, and what we instinctively consider to be “normal”.
Literally millions of people (including me) who first met online are now married, and psychologists are starting to examine these relationships. One independent study surveyed almost 20,000 Americans who met their spouse online.
If you meet online does that tend to make you more or less compatible? Those of us who met their partners online will find the results encouraging. In fact, people who met online were slightly less likely to divorce and scored slightly higher on marital satisfaction.” (Bohannon, 2013, Online marriage is a happy marriage). scientific support for what many of us have known for years – meeting someone online can work.
You have a much better chance of recognizing these issues and tackling them productively if you understand something about your partner’s relationship with their immediate family. How someone answers these questions can tell you a lot about their natural “love languages”–how they give and receive love.
How someone answers to these questions can give you clues about how to love well, and also let you know how they may often try to express their love for you.
We can do “casual intimacy.” When we meet online, therefore, it is easier to strike up a relationship with someone we are actually not all that compatible with. One obvious solution is to meet in person as soon as possible.