Since most of us can't see ourselves objectively, it's a great idea to have a close friend take a good look at you and offer some advice. "I'm ready to have a good time." Most people in our age group are looking for someone with energy, optimism and warmth.
If you are feeling unhappy, you won't be able to provide any of these.
You need give and take, and being the life of the party isn't required. "I'm in good shape, and I look my best." If you've been out of the dating circuit for a very long time, it's possible that you've gotten a bit too relaxed about how you present yourself.
You might need to go to the gym, get a new haircut, or shop for some better fitting clothes.
If you've been out of the dating pool for a long time, starting up again can be frightening.