“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.” ~Joseph F. He told me from the very beginning it would never be a relationship, and yet I have persevered with our friendship in various formats for the last seven years.
I ask myself this as I look back on the last nine years, which I have spent trying to cover up my real issue. After getting married at twenty and then leaving nineteen years later, it took another two years before I met another man that I fell in love with almost instantly.
Giphy It's not something you know until you've experienced it, and it's hard to describe. It's an ache in your chest, a heaviness that you can't shake, a longing that only the touch of another person can soothe.5. Giphy No matter how much I like my friends' significant other (and really, they're great! Although some may argue there are benefits to being a third-wheel, a little part of me dies every time I have to plaster a smile on my face and joke to the waiter that the bill is going to be split, "Two, two, and me. I have an outstandingly good group of friends and family, but as much as I want them to be (and as much they wish they could be), they aren't enough. Comparing the two or romanticizing something I consider painful undermines my feelings and makes me hate you a tiny bit.9. Giphy It’s kind of like the "Dead Dad's Club." (Please lower your pitchforks and allow me to explain.) Until you lose your dad, you don’t know what it's like.
It takes courage and persistence to overcome your bad habits—but it all starts with you, not someone else.
Ask for help, seek some guidance, but take full responsibility for your happiness.
It is time to forgive yourself and others so that you have the best chance possible to connect with yourself and others.
Develop new routines and rituals to celebrate special occasions and reward your new healthy behaviors.
Let’s look at what has been happening and see if you can identify with any of these: Rather than face the real issue of loneliness, I have dedicated myself to my work and various business enterprises.