While I was coaching Michelle through the first four months of their relationship (and intermittently in between), I cautioned her to NOT put any pressure on him about getting married and having kids.
While theoretically, she could be “wasting” her time with him, my advice was to let him fall in love with her.
First dates are often boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many men.
Guys build up the occasion in their mind for days or weeks beforehand, only to be severely let down after the fact.
Every time she wanted to criticize him for how he handled his relationship with his son, or his ex-wife, or his boss, she remembered that men don’t stay with women who treat them as incomplete projects – they bond with women who make them feel good. Here’s a snippet of her note to me: I love Michelle and I love this story.