“Get a little help from your friends (the saints)….”Pray to them to help you to confess well—that each confession you make is better than your prior confession! Also, pray for your confessor— to his guardian angel—before you enter the confessional! This entails rewinding the film of your life and seeing the various falls into sin.
On the walls in the sacristies of the Missionaries of Charity is written: “Say this Mass as if it were your first Mass, last Mass and only Mass.” We can apply the same principle: “Confess as if it were your first, last and only time.” 2. Why not pray to the holy Confessors to help you to make a good confession. Find a quiet and contemplative place to examine your conscience.
The following are a few: The Cure of Ars (Saint John Marie Vianney), St. Leonard of Port Maurice, Saint Leopold Mandic, Saint Padre Pio, Saint Francis Regis, Saint Alphonsus Liguori, Saint Anthony Claret, and Saint Ignatius of Loyola. Utilize the crucifix and Divine Mercy image to elicit sorrow and trust. Write down the sins so that you will not forget them once in the confessional! One of the classical steps to make a good confession is contrition but also firm purpose of amendment.
Also be keenly aware of the concept of dispositive grace.
The abundance of graces are received in direct proportion to the disposition of the recipient. A source of abundant grace is the Communion of saints.
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