Because from the relationships and attitudes I am seeing around me (and sometimes even in myself), we sometimes forget the ‘why’ and get confused trying to do the what.
I think the biggest example of this, and I'm not going to sugarcoat it here, is Christians who extend "dating a Christian" to "dating someone whom I will bring to church", "dating someone who is open to Christianity", or "dating someone who calls himself a Christian but hasn't really been to church in a few years". To do something like that is to miss the point of wanting to date a Christian in the first place.
Something so good, is so bad cause I’ve dedicated my life to Christ and my bf has chosen his own path. More importantly, does anyone actually you’re a Christian, and be quiet about it? Offering unsolicited critical opinions of others makes you a toxic gossip, which is one of the lowest things anyone can be.
Like the oxen pulling in different directions, a couple who doesn't share a Godly foundation will clash and experience conflict.
Perhaps you're not convinced yet, and you wonder, Even well-meaning Christians can fall into the trap of marrying non-believers.
It sounds elitist, holier-than-thou, and downright condescending. I'm 28 this year, I'm single, and one of the most common things I hear from my friends goes something along the lines of: "Why so picky? If your standard not so high I would introduce you to my friend(s) already la." And while I wholly believe in their well-meant intentions, I think it’s about time someone explained the reason behind this "pickiness", lest it be classified as another irrational, snobbish Christian standard to live by.
A long time ago, I went out with someone who, besides not being a Christian, was more or less perfect for me.
And sure enough, after awhile, I decided I couldn't go on with it anymore, because it was "wrong".