Receiving mixed signals from men - for it is mostly men who are the culprits, though some women are guilty of it too - is easily one of the most frustrating experiences early on in a relationship when you've just started dating. There are many different reasons a person could start sending mixed signals.When a guy sends mixed messages, it can confuse even the most rational, emotionally stable woman. Usually it's a sign that they're not sure what they want for themselves, but the concept is a little more complicated than that.Fact is that if you follow wherever he leads, you'll never have a healthy relationship - start as you mean to go on, and know how to stand on your own two feet before falling head over heels in love with an unworthy guy.
The reason for this, of course, is one nagging thought that won't go away: 'What if he's just not that into me? The first thing to do is talk to a trusted friend - perhaps they can help you feel more positive about the situation. A friend, family member or some other person - someone who is removed from the emotion of your relationship - will be able to give you an indication, and hopefully clear things up for you.
Regardless, quality time with the people you love will also serve to give you a much-needed ego-boost after the negativity of this issue.
The person could be unhappy in their own life, perhaps is in a bad place and maybe has self-esteem issues. And lastly, I feel lucky I had the strength and courage and wisdom to realize I needed to get out of such a toxic situation.
It's hard to see it at the time, and any man or woman who has dated in their life will tell you that we have all tried to be the fixer at one time or another in a relationship. Dating someone who is hot and cold can never turn into a healthy romantic relationship. Jackie Pilossoph is a freelance columnist for Chicago Tribune Media Group.
This one's taken from Merriam Webster: "a showing of thoughts or feelings that are very different from each other." Forgive yourself for being confused about their mixed signals.